I read Noel Piper’s blog from time to time. I was reading through her latest blog that contained “Collected Wisdom” given to a soon-to-be bride at her bridal shower. The guests went around and offered impromptu advice to the bride for her new life together with her future husband.
I am not married, nor am I most likely even remotely close to that happening. I don’t know if I’ll ever get married, for none of us know what the day may bring. Everyone likes to pull the Psalm 37:4 card, but, the thing is, if you’re seeking after God, He gives you desires/changes desires so that your desires are really His desires for you…so, I have no doubt that if I am to never marry, God will change that desire within me, if I am truly seeking after Him. One thing I struggle with is marriage as an idol. That’s a tangent so, if you’d like, you can read about that in “Love and Golden Calves”.
Anyway, I love these. I think there’s something to glean from them even if you’re not married, or if you’re soon-to-be married, or are already married. I love God-given wisdom. I hope to grow up to be a wise woman…single or married.
You can check out Noel’s blog and this specific blog here.
- When there’s trouble, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you or with him or something wrong with your family or his–it’s because God made you different than each other.
- Marriage is for sanctification.
- Remember no one will love him like you do.
- Read the Bible together every day.
- Pray together.
- Hold onto Jesus.
- Remember that all marriages are cross-cultural.
- Laugh a whole lot, especially when things are crummy.
- Never criticize him in front of other people.
- Let your behavior be respectful even when you don’t feel like it. Politeness like “please” and “thank you” can help clear the air.
- Be patient.
- Do things together, and time alone is important too.
- Appreciate each day. Don’t let things hang over from the past and don’t worry about the future.
- If you’re not feeling well, let him comfort you, and don’t go hide under the covers.
- Keep pursuing each other and learning each other.
- Make room for silliness.
- Stay friends.
- Learn how to celebrate together. You live close to your families, but make your own celebrations too for Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.
- Be as crazy as you can at home, then when sober times come, you can be sober. I hope you’ll have more than 62 years like we have.
- Let him be head of your house, and Jesus be head over all.
- Know every day about God’s sufficiency–not just in hard times, but all the time. I pray that God will lavish future grace on you.
- Go on the mission field. That will put everything to the test.
- Pray. Hug. Laugh.
- I wasted too much time wanting my husband to be what he wasn’t. Your husband is who you’ll know best from here on out. Enjoy who he is.
- Read out loud together.
- Launch out and be your own family, but remember you can call your mother anytime–and any of these friends too.
- A threefold cord is not easily broken. Please keep Jesus as the third strand in the cord of your life together.