For Better or Worse

I read Noel Piper’s blog from time to time. I was reading through her latest blog that contained “Collected Wisdom” given to a soon-to-be bride at her bridal shower. The guests went around and offered impromptu advice to the bride for her new life together with her future husband.

I am not married, nor am I most likely even remotely close to that happening. I don’t know if I’ll ever get married, for none of us know what the day may bring. Everyone likes to pull the Psalm 37:4 card, but, the thing is, if you’re seeking after God, He gives you desires/changes desires so that your desires are really His desires for you…so, I have no doubt that if I am to never marry, God will change that desire within me, if I am truly seeking after Him. One thing I struggle with is marriage as an idol. That’s a tangent so, if you’d like, you can read about that in “Love and Golden Calves”.

Anyway, I love these. I think there’s something to glean from them even if you’re not married, or if you’re soon-to-be married, or are already married. I love God-given wisdom. I hope to grow up to be a wise woman…single or married.

You can check out Noel’s blog and this specific blog here.

  • When there’s trouble, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you or with him or something wrong with your family or his–it’s because God made you different than each other.
  • Marriage is for sanctification.
  • Remember no one will love him like you do.
  • Read the Bible together every day.
  • Pray together.
  • Hold onto Jesus.
  • Remember that all marriages are cross-cultural.
  • Laugh a whole lot, especially when things are crummy.
  • Never criticize him in front of other people.
  • Let your behavior be respectful even when you don’t feel like it. Politeness like “please” and “thank you” can help clear the air.
  • Be patient.
  • Do things together, and time alone is important too.
  • Appreciate each day. Don’t let things hang over from the past and don’t worry about the future.
  • If you’re not feeling well, let him comfort you, and don’t go hide under the covers.
  • Keep pursuing each other and learning each other.
  • Make room for silliness.
  • Stay friends.
  • Learn how to celebrate together. You live close to your families, but make your own celebrations too for Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.
  • Be as crazy as you can at home, then when sober times come, you can be sober. I hope you’ll have more than 62 years like we have.
  • Let him be head of your house, and Jesus be head over all.
  • Know every day about God’s sufficiency–not just in hard times, but all the time. I pray that God will lavish future grace on you.
  • Go on the mission field. That will put everything to the test.
  • Pray. Hug. Laugh.
  • I wasted too much time wanting my husband to be what he wasn’t. Your husband is who you’ll know best from here on out. Enjoy who he is.
  • Read out loud together.
  • Launch out and be your own family, but remember you can call your mother anytime–and any of these friends too.
  • A threefold cord is not easily broken. Please keep Jesus as the third strand in the cord of your life together.




One thought on “For Better or Worse

  1. How timely a post and Good Word! 2010 was the year to open my eyes to the shifts in priorities I had wrongly made… I got a rude wakeup call…so heed to the advice…and if you marry, never get sidetracked from this sound advice. I’m glad to report my Redeemer loves me so much to show me the right way and ALL is great now!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s